✨ Why do you still feel “not ready” when it matters most? ✨
You’re brilliant, accomplished, and conscious.
So why do you still feel like you need one more certification, one more sign, one more level of preparation before you step fully into your power?
Why do you still shrink back or over-explain your worth when your heart is ready to lead?
What I’m Seeing 🌊
Here’s the quiet pattern I see in so many brilliant women:
💡 Staying silent when asked for volunteers, even though you’re the most qualified in the room.
💡 Dimming your energy when you’re about to shine too brightly.
💡 Over-explaining your qualifications instead of simply claiming your expertise.
💡 Spiraling in shame when you don’t meet impossible standards.
You may think these are personal flaws.
They aren’t.
They are memorized survival patterns programmed by what I call Cultural Hijackers—patterns that taught you to abandon yourself to stay “safe.”
What I Think Is Really Happening 🔍
By the time we’re 35, 95% of who we are is memorized, inherited survival behavior.
We learned to stay small, quiet, and agreeable to survive in systems that reward conformity over authenticity.
✨ But what if the hesitation you feel isn’t failure, but your soul calling you home? ✨
A Story from Our Circles 🌸
A client I’ll call Jane came to me in tears after missing a leadership opportunity she deeply wanted.
When her boss asked for volunteers to lead a high-visibility project, Jane stayed silent—even though she had been preparing for this level of leadership for years.
Later, her boss pulled her aside and asked, “What are you waiting for?”
Jane realized she wasn’t waiting for opportunity—she was waiting for permission.
As we gently worked with our Cultural Hijacker tools, she discovered it wasn’t a lack of confidence holding her back. It was the Confidence Hijacker, a memorized pattern whispering, “You’re not ready yet.”
When Jane realized she could change her mind about what circumstances meant, she began to see herself differently, made new choices, and stepped forward with authentic confidence.
Her success then reinforced her new identity.
What I’m Discovering Is Possible 💫
Jane’s breakthrough wasn’t about gaining confidence.
It was about remembering that the “unconfident woman” was never who she truly was.
✨ Those automatic reactions—the hesitation, self-doubt, dimming—aren’t you. They are inherited patterns that can be rewired. ✨
Your authentic self knows your worth, recognizes your readiness, and understands your power.
This work isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you have always been.
🛠️ Soul Tech Tool: Emotional Hijacker Detection
✨ Use this tool the next time a strong emotion arises:
1️⃣ PAUSE – Take a breath when you feel shame, inadequacy, overwhelm, or “I’m not enough.”
2️⃣ NAME THE EMOTION – “I’m feeling shame/fear/inadequacy right now.”
3️⃣ ASK THE DETECTIVE QUESTION – “What story is this emotion trying to get me to believe?”
4️⃣ IDENTIFY THE HIJACKER:
Shame about not being ready = Confidence Hijacker
Fear of being too much = Power Hijacker
Anxiety about others’ reactions = Approval Hijacker
Overwhelm about perfection = Perfection Hijacker
5️⃣ CHOOSE YOUR AUTHENTIC TRUTH – “My authentic self knows: I am ready. I am enough. My voice matters.”
6️⃣ TAKE ONE ALIGNED ACTION – Speak up, step forward, claim your space, or simply stand taller.
✨ Your emotional response is intelligence, not weakness. It is your nervous system’s signal that a Hijacker is trying to run the show.
Ready to do the deeper work of rewiring those memorized behaviors?
For Feminine Power Circles subscribers, I've created the Advanced Cultural Hijacker Transformation Process:
Personalized Hijacker Mapping - Identify your unique pattern of all 7 Cultural Hijackers
Neural Pathway Rewiring Practices - Specific techniques for each Hijacker pattern
Real-Time Recovery Scripts - What to say to yourself when each Hijacker activates
Identity Reclamation Journey - 21-day practice for embodying your authentic leadership
The women using these advanced tools are volunteering for opportunities, claiming their expertise, and leading from their authentic power—often within weeks.
If you're ready to stop operating from 95% memorized programming and start living from 100% authentic choice, subscribe here:
Remember: Your hesitation isn't personal inadequacy. It's inherited programming. And what was programmed can be reprogrammed.
You were born ready. You just forgot.
It's time to remember.
💎 Advanced Soul Tech Tool: Hijacked to High Level Practice for Confidence Hijacker
You’ve recognized the Confidence Hijacker when you:
🔸 Stay silent when you want to speak up
🔸 Over-explain your qualifications instead of claiming your expertise
🔸 Feel like “I’m not ready yet” when opportunities arise
✨ This tool will help you rewire this Hijacker’s neural pathway and reclaim your High Level operating capacity in real time.
Step 1: Recognition
Write in your journal or your notes app:
“The Confidence Hijacker is activated right now.”
“It’s telling me I’m not ready. I’m willing to question that.”
Step 2: Somatic Reset
Place one hand on your heart, the other on your belly.
Take three slow, conscious breaths and feel your feet on the floor. Say:
“I am safe in this moment. I am present.”
Step 3: High Level Truth Activation
Ask yourself:
🌿 “What would I do if I trusted myself completely in this moment?”
🌿 “What if I am already ready?”
Choose one High Level Truth to anchor:
✨ “I am ready now.”
✨ “My voice matters.”
✨ “I belong in this conversation.”
Repeat it aloud or silently until you feel a slight shift.
Step 4: Micro Aligned Action
Take one small aligned action within 24 hours to reinforce the new neural pathway:
✅ Speak up in a meeting, even if your voice shakes.
✅ Post a comment or insight in the Feminine Power Circles community.
✅ Send the email you’ve been hesitating to send.
✅ Share your idea without disclaimers.
Step 5: Reflect
After your action, journal:
How did it feel to take action aligned with your High Level truth?
What evidence did you receive that you are ready?
What fear stories were challenged or dissolved?
✨ Why This Works
Every time you catch the Confidence Hijacker in real-time and choose your High Level truth, you:
✅ Starve the Hijacker of energy
✅ Strengthen your High Level neural pathways
✅ Build embodied confidence without waiting for it to “arrive” first
This practice rewires your nervous system to recognize that you are ready now.
🌀 Your Invitation
Try this Hijacked to High Level Practice the next time you hear “I’m not ready” whispering in your mind.
Then come to our Soul Tech discussion post and share:
✨ What High Level Truth did you choose?
✨ What micro action did you take?
✨ What did you notice?
We are creating the tipping point together by practicing these micro recoveries—until living from your authentic self becomes your natural state.
With deep love for your sacred journey,
🌸 P.S. You were born ready. You just forgot. Let’s remember together.
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