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As a recovering people pleaser, I can attest to content of your piece. Learning to set healthy boundaries means saying no far more than I ever have before. The world didn't end and the friend I turned down doesn't hate me. I'm doing it more and more for my own emotional and mental well-being. Thank you for this.

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I know it takes a lot of courage, Virginia. It is amazing when you realize you can say no and a true friend will not only not hate you, a true friend will say, "Bravo!"

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This is so timely. I have said no a few times recently. My father passed in October of 2024 and people tend to invite you to things because they know that you have free time now. But it still feels too early to be out all of the time.

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It's great that. you are taking care of you! That is a top priority when the weight of grief is heavy on your life. My condolences for your loss.

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This article is fascinating. I, too, have had to examine the value of my relationships and reevaluate how much time and commitment I put into them. You are so right about some of them. I have realized I put too much time into them and got little to nothing back. I have also realized I shorted them a lot, and now I am mending those fences with them. There are some great thoughts and wisdom here. Thank you for sharing.

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Tom, thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. To honor the mission God sets before us we have to be discerning with our time and energy!

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